#Motivated Monday .@IyanlaVanzant

motivated mondayHappy Monday!

I would like to share with you all a brief story (paraphrased) I heard Ms. Iyanla Vanzant tell:

She spoke of how her and her grandson went to get an eye exam. The doctor asked Ms. Vanzant where her glasses were. Ms. Vanzant said ,” I have perfect vision; I am only getting the exam because it was a two for one deal and my grandson wears glasses”. The doctor proceeded to tell her that she may not have known she needed glasses because “your eyes will adjust to the level of deficiency in their focus”.

What a powerful metaphor we can all apply to our lives. How many of us have adjusted our goals to the deficiency of our current focus? Only aspiring to be what WE THINK is possible because we have trained ourselves to not see that ANYTHING is within our grasps.

I felt a real connection with this message because I have sat at the front of EVERY class all through grade school because I could not see the board in any other seat in the classroom. It wasn’t until I got to college that I purchased glasses, and talk about CLARITY! How many years will we as women, or we as people, or we as parents or whatever you define yourself by; allow yourself to live without real clarity. To have the opportunity to sit in any seat you want but see your vision board clearer than you would sitting in the front; out of the action.

I hope this resonates with a few of you. Never accept all you see to be all there is to be seen.

Happy Monday

Ms. Get Right

 

Ratchet-ness is NOT Genetic

For those of you unaware “ratchet” is like new-age “ghetto”. (Advice to those unaware, move out from under that rock).

As some one who has seen her fair share of ratchet parents, I have also seen quite a few ratchet kids.

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It hurts my heart because ratchet tendencies will spread throughout your brain and alter your decision making, like a cancer or dementia. That may sound extreme but those who are unable to turn their “ratchet” back off have trouble finding jobs, live in poverty, marry men with cornrows that barely reach their neck,etc. Bottom line is ratchet-ness is a serious problem affecting today’s youth.

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However, I am pleased to announce that ratchet-ness is NOT genetic. Classic Nature vs. Nurture. Can you catch it? YES. Can your children catch it? Definitely. But no one is born with it so everyone has a chance, but no one is immune.

Ratchet-ness is spreading across the internet and the school system like crazy. Please keep an eye out for the regular symptoms:

symptom 1. If you don’t mind leaving the house in a scarf or wave cap, without a bra or proper underwear, with an article of clothing with the following words on it “b**ch, yolo, ni**a, etc.”

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symptom 2. If you find yourself angrily screaming at service workers, the elderly, other people’s children, etc, while clapping at every word, with no regard for the people watching

Ratchet-ness in moderation is okay for everybody. If you really want to prevent “Bob Johnson” from turning into “Bob westsidegang Loyaltyovereverything Johnson” then allow yourself a twerk or two so that you will not suppress the urge too long!

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As for the children. Expose your kids to more than you have ever seen. Give them a fighting chance and an opportunity to be fully functioning members of society. Ratchet parents are prone to raising ratchet children. If you feel you are too ratchet to raise your baby; befriend someone who is willing to teach your child some un-ratchet ways. So that your children can have a chance to make that choice.

Or raise them to be like lil Boosie’s daughter (so ratchet but she is SO CUTE, and a #thug)

Good Luck To You All

Ms. Get Right

5 Rules for Being Single

Have you ever found yourself Suddenly Single?

Leaving a relationship can sometimes feel like a time warp. Maybe you started dating your ex-husband at 35 and now that you are 53 the two of you are getting a divorce. Or even if you fell in love at 24 and a baby and some years later you find yourself single and 30. So much about yourself and your life has changed!

When you are not on the dating scene you will be surprised how different the rules are.

Here are a few tips to help you transition from Seriously Taken to Suddenly Single:

1. Announce your newly single status GRACEFULLY! Let the ones who matter most be the first to know, so that they are not finding out from a facebook status. Let them trickle the news down, as you know they will spill, even if they swore to secrecy. When YOU are ready; throw a cute pic of yourself up online with a clever caption like:”Getting back to just loving myself”.

2.If there is even a glimmer of hope for your relationship DO NOT BASH THAT PERSON ONLINE OR ANYWHERE ELSE! Sometimes you are upset about something but the two of you get over it with time and reconcile, you never know what the future holds. Imagine how stupid you will look if you have told the internet about that person having an STD (true or not). Just keep your mouth SHUT when it comes to vengeful slurs, no good will come of it.

3.Embrace your new found freedom.Get drunk, get a little crazy, reclaim your youth (or whatever years) that you spent in that relationship, no need to rush into a new one. Spend some time getting to know the new you and REFLECT so you do not make ANY of the same mistakes. But remember; Let Loose, but don’t BE LOOSE!

4.Fight the Urge to Contact. This is like the hardest part! Especially if you are used to talking to your ex-mate about everything, or if the two of you have children, OR if you have a great relationship with their family OR if you have 2947 mutual friends. But trust me it is important to clear your life.space of a person so that you can be confident in your decision to move on. Let the relationship GO if it is over.When people say “lets just be friends” they ARE NOT ready to be single and not ready to be w/o that person. So give yourself substantial time before considering a friendship w/an ex.

5.You can’t change the past, but you can have one hell of a future!Go find what you want. Do what you want. Try something new. Love louder, laugh louder, live louder. No need to tastelessly flaunt how many dates you are on or how quickly you found someone new, let your spirit show how much happier you are.

And I wish you good luck and much love.

Ms. Get Right

Happy Aunt Day to Me!

Today is a super cool day for me being an aunt!

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My sister’s youngest son is turning two years old today (woah time flies) and my brother is in the hospital about to welcome a baby girl into the world.

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They both live states away from me so I wont be able to see my niece or my nephew today, but AUNTIE IS COMING (and so is your new cousin).

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So today I am dedicating my blog to my wonderful nieces and nephews, they gave me mommy training long before I was a mom; from baby sitting and constantly getting on my nerves.

Happy Birthday Cam!

Happy Birthday Cam!

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I love them all!

Aunty Get Right

 

#MotivatedMonday

motivated mondayAs always I am here to turn your Crappy Monday into a HAPPY MONDAY.

Or at least leave you with a few words to keep you thinking.

For today:

The Dalai Lama once said;

“Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck”

Keep that in mind as you go throughout your day, because sometimes what you want is not what you need RIGHT THEN!

Good Luck Everybody

Love,

Ms. Get Right

 

 

Eating Animals vs. Smoking Cigarettes

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Sorry for not posting yesterday. I was OOTO (out of the office). But hopefully today’s post makes up for things.

Eating Animals vs. Smoking Cigarettes

Which is worse for you? Which is harder to quit?

The other day my boyfriend and I were discussing our son and his current diet. At 4 months he eats rice cereal (which I initially opposed) and vegetables; and of course he drinks water and breastmilk.

Soon enough it will be time to introduce MEAT!

Now for me that was no big deal, however Dad is a vegetarian, who has been trying to get me off of meat ever since we met. But I am a carnivore who LOVES A HEARTY STEAK.

I introduced a wager. Starting the month of March he will stop smoking and I will eat NO MEAT (however I will still have seafood). If either of us is caught sneaking, then all bets are off!

Luckily for me I have been trying to cut back my calorie intake and this bet will push me to monitor my eating (and hopefully lose a couple pounds too). As far as Dad is concerned I REALLY want him to kick that stinky habit and since lung cancer doesn’t scare him; maybe the thought of his son ingesting meat will be enough for him to put down the cigarettes.

Lets see who has more will power. (I think it is me). I am excited to learn and post meat-less and filling recipes, so that is something to look forward to, i guess!

My next Post will be a review of Dinosaur BBQ, so be sure to come back tomorrow.

Ms. Get Right

Getting My Life Back!

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OKAY.

I would be lying if I said there was nothing I wanted to change about my life right now. Life can really suck you into a whirlwind sometimes, and it is easier than you think to get caught up and lose little pieces of yourself along the way. As a new mom, and a stay at home, work from home, live from home mom at only 22; there are times I’m lost in my own routine.

I have decided to get my LIFE BACK!!! with a simple list of 10 easy changes that wont require too much of a fuss. I am posting this list on the blog so that I have NO CHOICE but to follow through.

Here are some promises I am making to myself from today on:

1. No mater the weather, go outside EVERY Day

2. Significantly reduce the JUNKfood. Better eating = Better Mood..so  EAT BETTER & drink better

3. Dedicate an hour to CREATION .. DAILY! (sing, write music, poetry, make up a dance, etc.)

4.Try a new fitness regimen

5. Stop being a brat

6. Be more patient

7.Cut the crap and clean-up!

8. Complete (at least) 2 work related tasks a day (including weekends)

9.Have a Date-Night at least once a week

10. Dedicate time EVERYday to listening to music

I have my 10! I encourage all of you to create your own lists of simple life improvements and STICK TO THEM!!!

I will check in every now again and let you all know how everything is going for me…stay tuned =D

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IM NERVOUS EXCITED

Ms. Get Right