#Motivated Monday .@IyanlaVanzant

motivated mondayHappy Monday!

I would like to share with you all a brief story (paraphrased) I heard Ms. Iyanla Vanzant tell:

She spoke of how her and her grandson went to get an eye exam. The doctor asked Ms. Vanzant where her glasses were. Ms. Vanzant said ,” I have perfect vision; I am only getting the exam because it was a two for one deal and my grandson wears glasses”. The doctor proceeded to tell her that she may not have known she needed glasses because “your eyes will adjust to the level of deficiency in their focus”.

What a powerful metaphor we can all apply to our lives. How many of us have adjusted our goals to the deficiency of our current focus? Only aspiring to be what WE THINK is possible because we have trained ourselves to not see that ANYTHING is within our grasps.

I felt a real connection with this message because I have sat at the front of EVERY class all through grade school because I could not see the board in any other seat in the classroom. It wasn’t until I got to college that I purchased glasses, and talk about CLARITY! How many years will we as women, or we as people, or we as parents or whatever you define yourself by; allow yourself to live without real clarity. To have the opportunity to sit in any seat you want but see your vision board clearer than you would sitting in the front; out of the action.

I hope this resonates with a few of you. Never accept all you see to be all there is to be seen.

Happy Monday

Ms. Get Right

 

Ratchet-ness is NOT Genetic

For those of you unaware “ratchet” is like new-age “ghetto”. (Advice to those unaware, move out from under that rock).

As some one who has seen her fair share of ratchet parents, I have also seen quite a few ratchet kids.

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It hurts my heart because ratchet tendencies will spread throughout your brain and alter your decision making, like a cancer or dementia. That may sound extreme but those who are unable to turn their “ratchet” back off have trouble finding jobs, live in poverty, marry men with cornrows that barely reach their neck,etc. Bottom line is ratchet-ness is a serious problem affecting today’s youth.

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However, I am pleased to announce that ratchet-ness is NOT genetic. Classic Nature vs. Nurture. Can you catch it? YES. Can your children catch it? Definitely. But no one is born with it so everyone has a chance, but no one is immune.

Ratchet-ness is spreading across the internet and the school system like crazy. Please keep an eye out for the regular symptoms:

symptom 1. If you don’t mind leaving the house in a scarf or wave cap, without a bra or proper underwear, with an article of clothing with the following words on it “b**ch, yolo, ni**a, etc.”

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symptom 2. If you find yourself angrily screaming at service workers, the elderly, other people’s children, etc, while clapping at every word, with no regard for the people watching

Ratchet-ness in moderation is okay for everybody. If you really want to prevent “Bob Johnson” from turning into “Bob westsidegang Loyaltyovereverything Johnson” then allow yourself a twerk or two so that you will not suppress the urge too long!

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As for the children. Expose your kids to more than you have ever seen. Give them a fighting chance and an opportunity to be fully functioning members of society. Ratchet parents are prone to raising ratchet children. If you feel you are too ratchet to raise your baby; befriend someone who is willing to teach your child some un-ratchet ways. So that your children can have a chance to make that choice.

Or raise them to be like lil Boosie’s daughter (so ratchet but she is SO CUTE, and a #thug)

Good Luck To You All

Ms. Get Right

Women Like Watching Men Cheat on their Wives

March is National Women’s HisHerstory Month, which is a great time for me to quickly let you all know about my Thursday night (I’ll tie it all together I promise).

My Thursday television line-up included Parks and Recreation, Mary Mary, and Scandal.

A few things stuck out to me while watching all this delightful programming. Each of these shows have a woman as the leading role which is great, ehhh I guess. In Parks and Rec. there have been 3 weddings (if I am counting correctly), and a host of successful relationships etc. This season of Mary Mary is focused on Tina’s husband cheating on her and last night we found out Erica’s husband might have cheated too (SPOILER ALERT!), and then there is Scandal where the whole show is rape, cheating, well you know – things that are scandalous.

As someone who is still very young and a terribly, hopeless romantic I want to get married – ONCE! I am a very loyal and committed individual who expects the same in return. Watching Mary Mary (which is a reality show) and seeing a woman BROKEN because of her husband’s infidelity makes me nervous and very sympathetic for her. Seconds later turning on Scandal to see the main character glorified for sleeping with a married man, really threw me off a bit. I know that terrible things make for great TV but what bothers me most are other women’s responses to what is depicted.

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I think about BET’s Being Mary Jane, I am not a recurring viewer but I have seen ENOUGH episodes (2 to be exact) to see that the show is centered around a woman who is sleeping with or who has slept with a married man. People love that show. Week after week I see tweets and fb stats where viewers are bashing the wives, and promoting the mistress and even the cheating husband. BET even has a promotion where they are telling people to embrace their inner Mary Jane. WHAT? What does that even mean?

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My favorite responses are when people tweet things like “he wouldnt have cheated if his wife wasnt such a bitch”, or “if only they could just be together”. And I wonder how many of the women who are saying these things are turning over to a man, who is faithful.Or how many of them are dumb enough to REALLY believe he wasn’t that “in LOVE” with his actual wife at one point in time.

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From a far, these shows look like they have some powerful women in it; journalists, white house liasons, the first lady, etc. But the women are crying in every episode, chasing men down the street, accused of stealing sperm. I guess that is as strong as women get…idk, im just sharing my thoughts on a blog.

But I just can not seem to get over the responses to this behavior. I am going to continue to watch Scandal but I am #TEAMMELLIE, #teamcommitment, #TEAM “You can act stupid if you want to but yo ass betta pull it together because you stood at that alter and vowed to commit and I dont care what kind of “love” you got for that 2 dollar tramp; till death do us part means the only way we getting out of this is in a coffin”. Those are my teams, yes the last one is a bit long, but you get my point.

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I could go on for days and sorry for not being able to really delve as deep as I want to, but as I always say this is a BLOG not a BOOK!

I just want to ask, Whats up with women? Yall really think this is okay?

I dont know, just throwing it out there. End of Rant!

-Ms. Get Right

This Beyonce $#!+ has Officially Gone Overboard

I get it, you all LOVE Beyonce.

Is she the greatest vocalist ever? NO

Is her writing impeccable? Not hardly

I can run done the list of things that she is not the best or greatest at, BUT I will admit that I know the lyrics to her songs, I turn her up when she is on the radio, and I recognize her talent. I also understand that she is not the best of all time in any category BUT a perfect combination of better than everyone else out RIGHT NOW in enough categories to generate noticeable fanfare!

Also her brand, branding initiatives, and public relations practice are top notch. She makes a bunch of the right moves at the right time and that is definitely the makings of a great business, she is of course a business.

HOWEVER what is wrong with the people of the world? You guys act like she parted the red sea!

Someone with that much influence I expect to hear A LOT MORE charitable, and socially responsible efforts, but whatever! I can not force anyone to save the world.That is not even why I am writing this post; because despite my many complaints – I am a fan.

I am just confused as to why she is praised so heavily. To the point where if you say anything wrong about her people unfriend you on facebook. There is a class in her name, and an article floating around that says you can obtain a Beyonce degree..WHAT!

None of you feel like you took a sip too many of the kool-aid?

I will end this rant here..I have a life to tend to!

Ms. Get Right

 

 

Getting My Life Back!

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OKAY.

I would be lying if I said there was nothing I wanted to change about my life right now. Life can really suck you into a whirlwind sometimes, and it is easier than you think to get caught up and lose little pieces of yourself along the way. As a new mom, and a stay at home, work from home, live from home mom at only 22; there are times I’m lost in my own routine.

I have decided to get my LIFE BACK!!! with a simple list of 10 easy changes that wont require too much of a fuss. I am posting this list on the blog so that I have NO CHOICE but to follow through.

Here are some promises I am making to myself from today on:

1. No mater the weather, go outside EVERY Day

2. Significantly reduce the JUNKfood. Better eating = Better Mood..so  EAT BETTER & drink better

3. Dedicate an hour to CREATION .. DAILY! (sing, write music, poetry, make up a dance, etc.)

4.Try a new fitness regimen

5. Stop being a brat

6. Be more patient

7.Cut the crap and clean-up!

8. Complete (at least) 2 work related tasks a day (including weekends)

9.Have a Date-Night at least once a week

10. Dedicate time EVERYday to listening to music

I have my 10! I encourage all of you to create your own lists of simple life improvements and STICK TO THEM!!!

I will check in every now again and let you all know how everything is going for me…stay tuned =D

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IM NERVOUS EXCITED

Ms. Get Right

#WorldWideWednesday Everyone Should Be Allowed to use the N Word #BlackHistoryMonth

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What got you here? The title? GREAT!

Today is Wednesday yet again, where I share something I found while searching the web.

Today… THE N WORD! I am very critical when people are discussing race and ways to help the Black community and this is one of VERY FEW videos I give a thumbs up to, it says enough without forcing any claims. I hope you enjoy .. and I would love to hear some feedback.

Who Should Use the N Word

Ms. Get Right

I Have Become an Opportunity ALCOHOLIC!

Hello my name is Ms. Get Right and I am an opportunity alcoholic…

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I KNOW that alcoholism is NOTHING to joke about, so please do not take this offensively. BUT nursing has turned me into a drinking optimist.

Now that my little man is eating vegetables twice a day and drinking water, less time is spent living on the breast. Not to mention he is sleeping longer hours and through out the night. And as a mom who breast feeds exclusively (no formula) this means “PASS THE COUVOISIER”.

I know to drink responsibly, and I am still timing my consumption down to the minute; but oh god it feels so good to go out and have a drink or 2 or 3. When the opportunity presents itself I am ALL OVER IT!

Oddly enough I wasn’t a BIG drinker when I was in college but then again I am ONLY 22! As soon as I was of legal age to drink I was pregnant so it feels great to have a legal drink without having to worry about having my son becoming inebriated.

I will admit that going over a year with no sauce has ruined my tolerance level but that has made things a lot more fun for me. Especially when I can say, after a long day, I HAVE DESERVED THIS GLASS!

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#breastfeedingproblems

Oh the small wonders I have come to appreciate!

Ms. Get Right