Ratchet-ness is NOT Genetic

For those of you unaware “ratchet” is like new-age “ghetto”. (Advice to those unaware, move out from under that rock).

As some one who has seen her fair share of ratchet parents, I have also seen quite a few ratchet kids.

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It hurts my heart because ratchet tendencies will spread throughout your brain and alter your decision making, like a cancer or dementia. That may sound extreme but those who are unable to turn their “ratchet” back off have trouble finding jobs, live in poverty, marry men with cornrows that barely reach their neck,etc. Bottom line is ratchet-ness is a serious problem affecting today’s youth.

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However, I am pleased to announce that ratchet-ness is NOT genetic. Classic Nature vs. Nurture. Can you catch it? YES. Can your children catch it? Definitely. But no one is born with it so everyone has a chance, but no one is immune.

Ratchet-ness is spreading across the internet and the school system like crazy. Please keep an eye out for the regular symptoms:

symptom 1. If you don’t mind leaving the house in a scarf or wave cap, without a bra or proper underwear, with an article of clothing with the following words on it “b**ch, yolo, ni**a, etc.”

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symptom 2. If you find yourself angrily screaming at service workers, the elderly, other people’s children, etc, while clapping at every word, with no regard for the people watching

Ratchet-ness in moderation is okay for everybody. If you really want to prevent “Bob Johnson” from turning into “Bob westsidegang Loyaltyovereverything Johnson” then allow yourself a twerk or two so that you will not suppress the urge too long!

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As for the children. Expose your kids to more than you have ever seen. Give them a fighting chance and an opportunity to be fully functioning members of society. Ratchet parents are prone to raising ratchet children. If you feel you are too ratchet to raise your baby; befriend someone who is willing to teach your child some un-ratchet ways. So that your children can have a chance to make that choice.

Or raise them to be like lil Boosie’s daughter (so ratchet but she is SO CUTE, and a #thug)

Good Luck To You All

Ms. Get Right

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5 Rules for Being Single

Have you ever found yourself Suddenly Single?

Leaving a relationship can sometimes feel like a time warp. Maybe you started dating your ex-husband at 35 and now that you are 53 the two of you are getting a divorce. Or even if you fell in love at 24 and a baby and some years later you find yourself single and 30. So much about yourself and your life has changed!

When you are not on the dating scene you will be surprised how different the rules are.

Here are a few tips to help you transition from Seriously Taken to Suddenly Single:

1. Announce your newly single status GRACEFULLY! Let the ones who matter most be the first to know, so that they are not finding out from a facebook status. Let them trickle the news down, as you know they will spill, even if they swore to secrecy. When YOU are ready; throw a cute pic of yourself up online with a clever caption like:”Getting back to just loving myself”.

2.If there is even a glimmer of hope for your relationship DO NOT BASH THAT PERSON ONLINE OR ANYWHERE ELSE! Sometimes you are upset about something but the two of you get over it with time and reconcile, you never know what the future holds. Imagine how stupid you will look if you have told the internet about that person having an STD (true or not). Just keep your mouth SHUT when it comes to vengeful slurs, no good will come of it.

3.Embrace your new found freedom.Get drunk, get a little crazy, reclaim your youth (or whatever years) that you spent in that relationship, no need to rush into a new one. Spend some time getting to know the new you and REFLECT so you do not make ANY of the same mistakes. But remember; Let Loose, but don’t BE LOOSE!

4.Fight the Urge to Contact. This is like the hardest part! Especially if you are used to talking to your ex-mate about everything, or if the two of you have children, OR if you have a great relationship with their family OR if you have 2947 mutual friends. But trust me it is important to clear your life.space of a person so that you can be confident in your decision to move on. Let the relationship GO if it is over.When people say “lets just be friends” they ARE NOT ready to be single and not ready to be w/o that person. So give yourself substantial time before considering a friendship w/an ex.

5.You can’t change the past, but you can have one hell of a future!Go find what you want. Do what you want. Try something new. Love louder, laugh louder, live louder. No need to tastelessly flaunt how many dates you are on or how quickly you found someone new, let your spirit show how much happier you are.

And I wish you good luck and much love.

Ms. Get Right

6 Reasons Kids Are the Best Workout Partners

As my regular readers already know, I have been eating better and working out as part of my (10 simple ways to better myself). I have discovered that of all the workout partners I have ever had, my 9 year old brother is the best yet.

Let me introduce you to Mekhi!

mekhiHis main objectives are:

  • Getting a 6-pack
  • Getting Waves
  • Getting Girls

(that is a direct quote by the way).

The last couple of days he has been working out with me and here are a few reasons why I prefer exercising with him:

1. MOTIVATION.  He has so much energy, so he keeps me motivated.

2. NO PRESSURE When I am too tired to continue and he is still going, I do not feel like I am lazy, I just say it is because he is so much younger than I am.

3. HEALTHY COMPETITION When he quits and I am still going, I feel like I am on top of the world, because having more stamina than a 9 year old makes you feel pretty good about yourself.

4. POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT After one day of working out he said to me “you know what, you look like you have lost some weight, and I am not saying that to be nice; I do not want to be nice”. and that was the nicest thing I had heard all month!

5. CONSTANT REMINDER He is so excited to come workout everyday. He reminds me CONSTANTLY that it is time to exercise, so I never miss a day.

6. IT IS JUST SIMPLY A LOT MORE FUN!!!

Those are my 6!

Go find you a young relative or child of your own who wants to workout and I bet you will have a good time.

Make sure that they actually want to workout, if not they will just goof around and that will be annoying, trust me.

Good Luck

Ms. Get Right

 

#WorldWideWednesday Everyone Should Be Allowed to use the N Word #BlackHistoryMonth

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What got you here? The title? GREAT!

Today is Wednesday yet again, where I share something I found while searching the web.

Today… THE N WORD! I am very critical when people are discussing race and ways to help the Black community and this is one of VERY FEW videos I give a thumbs up to, it says enough without forcing any claims. I hope you enjoy .. and I would love to hear some feedback.

Who Should Use the N Word

Ms. Get Right

The Benefit of Board Games : Life Lessons Today’s Youth Need To Learn

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Yesterday my younger brother, cousin, and myself were going through their Christmas gifts trying to decide what we were going to play with. (Yes! I am a shameless BIG KID!).

Among the tablets, gadgets, and electronic gizmos; I saw an old relic – a Trouble board. Sweet salvation! I convinced the boys to let me teach them how to play.

FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO KNOW HOW TO PLAY TROUBLE, PLEASE SCROLL TO THE NEXT PARAGRAPH!

For those of you who do not know, Trouble is a board game. The game can be played with 2-4 players. Each player is assigned a color which coincides with the color of four pegs. The goal is to get all four of your pieces from the start space, around the board, and safely into the home safety spot, without an opponent landing on your peg, which causes you to start your journey around the board all over. The ability to come out of the starting position is determined by “popping” a 6. There is a round “popper” located in the center of the board, with a die inside of it. The number on the die also determines how many spaces a player is allowed to move

BACK TO THE POINT OF THE BLOG!

Since the game is so simple, I thought these bright young boys would pick it up in no time. To my surprise, through the entirety of the game I found myself having to repeat instructions every time either of them had a turn. One tried to quit, one of them shed a tear or two. I realized while playing that board games taught kids things that you can never learn from temple run or candy crush. Such as:

1. Strategy

Whether it be Monopoly, Trouble, or Scrabble. A board game will force its players to strategically place their pieces. Sometimes you have to buy Mediterranean and Baltic avenue, because even though they are cheap everyone has to pass them (monopoly reference). As a life skill it is imperative to know how to be strategic, especially if you intend to go into business.

2. Delayed Gratification and Patience

Board games are LONG!  It is important to understand (in games and in life) that good things come to those who wait.

3. Perseverance

Sometimes you only have one piece on the board and someone sends you all the way back to start. Does this mean the game is over? No, it means you have to stick it out and start over; just another opportunity to finish strong. The best part of getting knocked down is proving you can stand back up.

4. No hard feelings.

There is no harm in playing the game the way it is meant to be played. If you keep letting one person get a pass then you are robbing them of their experience and not giving yourself the opportunity to claim what is rightfully yours.

and lastly,

5. Sometimes you LOSE!

Should you cry about it, sure if you want! But remember that there is ALWAYS a next time. Dry up the tears, be more strategic, wait for your turn, remember that one person’s success is not your failure, and persevere.

Happy Playing Everyone!

and as always thank you for reading.

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