5 Rules for Being Single

Have you ever found yourself Suddenly Single?

Leaving a relationship can sometimes feel like a time warp. Maybe you started dating your ex-husband at 35 and now that you are 53 the two of you are getting a divorce. Or even if you fell in love at 24 and a baby and some years later you find yourself single and 30. So much about yourself and your life has changed!

When you are not on the dating scene you will be surprised how different the rules are.

Here are a few tips to help you transition from Seriously Taken to Suddenly Single:

1. Announce your newly single status GRACEFULLY! Let the ones who matter most be the first to know, so that they are not finding out from a facebook status. Let them trickle the news down, as you know they will spill, even if they swore to secrecy. When YOU are ready; throw a cute pic of yourself up online with a clever caption like:”Getting back to just loving myself”.

2.If there is even a glimmer of hope for your relationship DO NOT BASH THAT PERSON ONLINE OR ANYWHERE ELSE! Sometimes you are upset about something but the two of you get over it with time and reconcile, you never know what the future holds. Imagine how stupid you will look if you have told the internet about that person having an STD (true or not). Just keep your mouth SHUT when it comes to vengeful slurs, no good will come of it.

3.Embrace your new found freedom.Get drunk, get a little crazy, reclaim your youth (or whatever years) that you spent in that relationship, no need to rush into a new one. Spend some time getting to know the new you and REFLECT so you do not make ANY of the same mistakes. But remember; Let Loose, but don’t BE LOOSE!

4.Fight the Urge to Contact. This is like the hardest part! Especially if you are used to talking to your ex-mate about everything, or if the two of you have children, OR if you have a great relationship with their family OR if you have 2947 mutual friends. But trust me it is important to clear your life.space of a person so that you can be confident in your decision to move on. Let the relationship GO if it is over.When people say “lets just be friends” they ARE NOT ready to be single and not ready to be w/o that person. So give yourself substantial time before considering a friendship w/an ex.

5.You can’t change the past, but you can have one hell of a future!Go find what you want. Do what you want. Try something new. Love louder, laugh louder, live louder. No need to tastelessly flaunt how many dates you are on or how quickly you found someone new, let your spirit show how much happier you are.

And I wish you good luck and much love.

Ms. Get Right

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6 Reasons Kids Are the Best Workout Partners

As my regular readers already know, I have been eating better and working out as part of my (10 simple ways to better myself). I have discovered that of all the workout partners I have ever had, my 9 year old brother is the best yet.

Let me introduce you to Mekhi!

mekhiHis main objectives are:

  • Getting a 6-pack
  • Getting Waves
  • Getting Girls

(that is a direct quote by the way).

The last couple of days he has been working out with me and here are a few reasons why I prefer exercising with him:

1. MOTIVATION.  He has so much energy, so he keeps me motivated.

2. NO PRESSURE When I am too tired to continue and he is still going, I do not feel like I am lazy, I just say it is because he is so much younger than I am.

3. HEALTHY COMPETITION When he quits and I am still going, I feel like I am on top of the world, because having more stamina than a 9 year old makes you feel pretty good about yourself.

4. POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT After one day of working out he said to me “you know what, you look like you have lost some weight, and I am not saying that to be nice; I do not want to be nice”. and that was the nicest thing I had heard all month!

5. CONSTANT REMINDER He is so excited to come workout everyday. He reminds me CONSTANTLY that it is time to exercise, so I never miss a day.

6. IT IS JUST SIMPLY A LOT MORE FUN!!!

Those are my 6!

Go find you a young relative or child of your own who wants to workout and I bet you will have a good time.

Make sure that they actually want to workout, if not they will just goof around and that will be annoying, trust me.

Good Luck

Ms. Get Right

 

Dinosaur BBQ #RestaurantReview .@dinosaurBQ

I do not eat out much since I had the baby, when I do go out I don’t like wasting my time or my money on yucky food or terrible service, so to help the other moms around the world who want a guaranteed good meal, I am going to do some reviews of places I eat. This review includes TASTE, PIX, and PRICES.

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Me and my friend Jack-Attack (aka Jackie) were trying to find a place where we could meet up for lunch and catch up, because we have not hung  out since Ive had the baby.

She suggested Dinosaur BBQ. They have 8 locations (7 in NY -Harlem, Syracuse, Rochester, Stamford, Troy, Brooklyn, and Buffalo. 1 in NJ- Newark).

I had heard of the place and had food brought home for me from there but never had the full dining experience…so we went. We ate at the Newark, NJ location; located at 224 Market st.

First thing I want to say: Awesome Music!

The decor was pleasing, the hostess was so nice, and it was a respectfully laid back feel; so you can talk freely at your own volume, but not like sports bar yelling.

DRINKS – I ordered a Dino-Palmer [aprox $7]  (the restaurants variation of an Arnold Palmer) and Jack ordered a Corona [$?].

Although I could see the ice in my glass, my drink was WARM! I like my liquor to be slightly chilled so that was a little upsetting, but it was yummy none the less.

Jackie’s beer was flat! I do not drink beer so I am not sure how much of a sin that is.

On to the most important part…THE FOOD!

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We started with a Swag Sampler Plate for 2. Which was about $12.00

It included 2 Fried green tomatoes, 3 shrimp, 2 chicken wings (we had mild sauce), 2 deviled eggs, and 3 sauces (cocktail, ranch, and blue cheese).

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The fried green tomatoes were SO DELICIOUS! It was my first time ever having and now that I know how yummy they can be I will try making them myself at home.They were topped with Parmesan cheese.. SO GOOD!!! 

The deviled eggs were too salty, the wings were yummy, and the shrimp was good too. Although 3 shrimp came on the plate and the waiter took the plate away before we could eat the 3rd one.

What we Ordered!

Jackie ordered the Cuban (pulled pork, ham and swiss, with pickles & mustard), from the Pork Bbq section of the menu (specialty sandwiches) w/ a side of mac and cheese. (aprox $11).

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She says it was absolutely delicious. The mac and cheese comes topped with a spicy red powder, I do not want to say it is Chili powder because I am not certain.

I had the BBS (BBQ brisket topped with hickory smoked bacon and melted swiss; $10) (sorry there is no image). It was such a nice combination of flavors. I am a lover of swiss cheese and red meat, so I was not surprised at how much I enjoyed it.

My fav parts were actually THE BREAD and THE PICKLES. The bread was soft in the center with a crunchy exterior and the pickles were so fresh. They did not taste like they were soaking in vinegar for ever which is nice, I wonder if they make the pickles on site, hmmm?

It was the perfect quick lunch date totaling about $48.oo. The receipt had this “suggested tip” section at the bottom which we found to be cool. There are definitely cheaper eats around town, but the taste and experience was SO GOOD!

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is there food on my face?

Dinosaur is good with me. I will be sure to go back, but next time to a NY location just to mix things up.

Ms. Get Right